22 Jan 2009

HOW TO STOP BEING A GIRLY GIRL

You've been a girly girl in the past, but now you've grown up and decided that this style and attitude does no longer represent you. So, if you want your immature, ditzy side to convert into a more sophisticated type of feminine, or just want to stop being conceited and ditzy, this article can help you. Read on to find out how to stop being a girly girl.

Steps

  1. Stop dressing like Barbie. Get rid of most of your pink stuff, clothes with prints like hearts and flowers, butterfly-shaped hair clips, and half of your mini skirts. Add some black clothes; they're easy to combine with almost everything.
  2. Reorganize your makeup kit. Use lipstick instead of lip gloss, and go for eyeshadow in natural colors rather than pink, purple, blue, green or orange eyeshadow. Don't cake on makeup.
  3. Talk normally. Stop using "OMG", "like" when it's not needed, "totally", "duh" and such. Example of a typical girly girl talk: "OMG, like, those shoes are, like, sooo cute! I totally need a pair like that! Like, duh, they're awesome!". Avoid talking like that.
  4. Don't smile all the time, especially when you don't mean it. For example, when you argue with somebody, don't smile at them while being mean to them. A smile is nice and welcome in 85% of cases, but that's one of the 15% when it's not appropriate.
  5. Make friends with guys. As a girly girl, you probably had only female pals and the guys were just for flirting. You've got a lot to learn from guys, for example how to take things less seriously, be more relaxed and joke more. Friendships between girls are filled with jealousy, gossip, catfights, betrayal, lies and secrets. Friendships between guys are different.
  6. Avoid shopping at typical preppy stores, like Abercrombie or Hollister. These shops are mostly inclined towards a girly girl style.
  7. Talk in a lower pitch. It's more mature and boys like it more. Guaranteed.
  8. Don't play dumb or ditzy. Just be yourself. You'll have a lot more to earn from behaving like an intelligent person. First of all, people (including parents) will take you more seriously. You will impress guys by acting mature, and you will gain the appreciation of adults too, not only teens.
  9. Start practicing a sport. Other than cheerleading, mind; it's the typical girly girl sport (if it can be called a sport). Play a team sport like basketball, soccer, volleyball or baseball. A sport teaches you how to be part of a team and collaborate with people to attain a certain goal. It also teaches you discipline, solidarity and strategical thinking, plus it's a great way to lose weight.

HOW TO BE A TOMBOY AND STILL HAVE GIRL FRIENDS

So, you've decided to become a tomboy, or maybe you already are one. However, you have friends that are more the "girly-girl" type. This doesn't have to mean the end of your friendship - despite contrary belief, tomboys and girly-girls can get along just fine.

Steps

  1. Accept your differences. Sure, she may prefer manicures to muddy football, and that's O.K. Find something you all (both) like to do, like hang out by the beach or play at the arcade.
  2. Don't seriously tease her. All friends tease each other every once and a while, but don't tease your friend too seriously. Nobody likes a mean friend.
  3. Keep your opinions to yourself. Going around telling everyone who will listen how much you despise girly girls is definitely a bad idea, even if you consider your friend an exception.
  4. Don't force yourself on her, and speak up if you think she's forcing herself on you. This is how friendships can end, and you'll get on each others' nerves.
  5. Find common interests. Even if she doesn't like sports, and you don't like shopping, you probably have other things in common - or else you wouldn't have become friends in the first place.
  6. Stay friends! You may be less girly than some girls, but you still have the same great qualities that your friend loved before. So have fun, and laugh!
  7. Try new things together that you'll both enjoy, and have a special activity that bonds you together. You might find something you really like.


Tips

  • Don't dwell too much on your differences. If all you can think about when you're with her is how pink her clothes are compared to your torn jeans and t-shirt, your friendship may eventually deteriorate with that kind of thinking.
  • Watch what you talk about. It's common for tomboys to forget that their more feminine friends don't like to hear about video games, nasty sports accidents, or whatever other "gross" (in her mind) interests you might have. Let her know, tactfully, if her talk of boys, makeup, and shopping is starting to get to you, too.


Warnings

  • School can be a cruel place, and her friends may turn her against you. If that happens, try talking it out with her, or just go with it if all else fails. If she can't be loyal to you, you don't need to be friends.


Don't want to be a tomboy anymore? It's simple but you have to make sure you want to do it!

Steps

  1. Start off with small changes, don't do anything too drastic at first. Like if you keep your hair pulled up most of the time then wear it down. Or try sports-appropriate makeup such as lip gloss.
  2. Start doing bigger things. Like if you wear glasses get contacts or add subtle highlights to your hair.
  3. Go shopping. Go to places like Abercrombie and Fitch or Hollister or where ever all the girls LOVE to shop. If you hate shopping, buy a few key pieces that will last you for a while.
  4. Wear make up. Don't go overboard! Mascara, eyeliner, and lip gloss will do fine.
  5. Try to befriend more girls if all of your friends are guys.
  6. hang with mostly girls


Tips

  • Make sure you want to change. Be ready for anything you have to do. It doesn't mean that you have to give up your sport, just be more feminine.
  • Don't change fast! Take your time. If you do all this over a weekend you'll look weird to other people.


Warnings

  • Be prepared to be viewed as a wannabe. Just follow these instructions carefully and you shouldn't.
  • Many studies suggest that tomboyishness is forged in the womb (check out wikipedia for references) and is inherent in one's character, so be careful trying to become what you're not. There's nothing like being yourself.
  • Having guy friends has it's advantages when you're a girl. Guys can be easier to talk to, and generally don't gossip. Also, if you have more guy friends, you have way more potential boyfriends when the time comes that you want one.
  • There's nothing wrong with being a tomboy, and a lot of nice people like will like you for who you are no matter what, so if you're changing for a boy, and not for yourself, you'd just be doing it for nothing.

WARNING( for 'how to dres like a tomboy')

  • Not recommended if you don't want to be remembered as "one of the guys", it won't help with your love life too much
  • If your asked to wear a dress to a fancy dinner or party you might have to just that one time because if you went in your torn jeans and Nike-T-shirt people who are wearing the fancy dresses are giving you strange looks.



WARNING (for 'how to tell if a tomboy likes you')

  • Don't assume. Bad.
  • Don't tease her about it.
  • Don't confess if you're not sure.
  • If she's in a relationship, you don't need this.

HOW TO TELL IF A TOMBOY LIKES YOU

Tomboys aren't like most girls. They're a lot easier to hang around with and a lot of the time just one of the guys. But they're also a lot more complicated when looking for signs that they might like you.

Steps

  1. Pay attention to how things have changed. A lot of the time a tomboy will be friends with you before she starts liking you. And it won't be a sudden change either. You have to be fairly observant, and this takes skill and practice.
  2. Does she touch you less or show less goofy emotions? Tomboys tend to get more uptight around guys they like because they want you to think of them as girls. And to them, touching is a guy thing, and so are goofy faces. But this isn't always the case.
  3. Does she emphasize the fact that she's "one of the guys"? More often a girl will try to convince you that she hasn't changed, making a noticeable change to everyone. She probably doesn't want you to turn her away or for things to get uncomfortable if you find out, so she denies it to herself and others. You can't stay friends if you know.
  4. Does she get mad a lot around you? Tomboys are a lot like guys in this aspect. If they do something that they think is unattractive, they may think this will hurt their chance with you, if there is any. But you could also be ticking them off.
  5. They probably don't know much about flirting. Boys have always been friends to them, so boyfriends are probably the most complicated thing to them, even more so than how to fix that crack in your gas tank. Probably even more than it is for you, gasp!
  6. Does she hit you for no reason? Like, not the normal, you called her a girl so she's gonna whack you in the arm kind of hit. Like, you're just there and she wants to. She's probably trying to turn you off to her.
  7. Does everyone else joke that you two would make a cute couple? Although it could also be you, guys and tomboys are a lot less secretive when it comes to it. It could also be just joking, but most of the time they have probably noticed something you haven't. Watch her reaction. If it's a regular annoyed "shut up", then it's probably not her. But if you see her blush her tense up, they could be right.
  8. She probably won't confide in a guy, so look to the female friends for hints. If she looks at you like she's observing your reactions, she probably is. Though you probably shouldn't test this.
  9. "Do you like (insert tomboy's name here)?" If her female friend asks you this, there's a ninety-percent chance that she's asking for her friend. Even if she tells you something like "she hasn't said anything to me, I just wanted to know" doesn't mean that's why they're really asking. Of course there's still that ten-percent that she's telling the truth.
  10. You have a gut feeling. Tomboys probably aren't all that sneaky about hiding their feelings. They could really be staring at you when you think they are.
  11. They offer to pay for the meals. She use to always use tricks to get you to pay and now she's "repaying you" or "just being nice". She could be trying to get on your good side.
  12. She goes out of her way to make sure she's not alone with you. You use to hang out just you two all the time, playing video games, watching tv, playing one-on-one sports. But now she's either busy or invites another friend, even though she's an introvert. You haven't had your best friend time in months. Having another person with you guys is relaxing, she doesn't have to try so hard, she has help.
  13. Follow some http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You - girl tips. Tomboys are tomBOYs for a reason. Cold shoulder, copy-cat, harsh teasing, bumping into you. Stuff that you would do to a girl.
  14. When you flirt with other girls, does she look put off or angry? Both are signs of jealousy. She has probably already decided that she has no personal claim to you, but she can still get jealous against her will. If she avoids eye contact or looks sad, that's probably a positive sign. But you may have to look at her eyes. A slight droop in the eye lids or thinned lips mean a lot. But do NOT flirt just to make her jealous, because it could lead to problems in the friendship.


Tips

  • Follow girl tips.
  • Look at ways to http://www.wikihow.com/Attract-a-Tomboy - make a tomboy like you and follow a few of the rules. See how she responds.
  • Keep in mind that all girls are different.
  • They will probably lie to you if you ask them about it. See if they blush.
  • Eye contact.

WARNING (for 'how to be yourself)

  • Just because you don't care about how people perceive you doesn't mean you shouldn't be aware of it, especially in situations where being yourself might be misinterpreted. For example, you might enjoy being friendly and flirtatious, but in some cultures, that might be perceived as a sexual invitation, and you could get yourself in trouble.
  • Don't lose yourself when you're with other friends. Be yourself. Don't be someone else so other people will like you; in the end, you would end up hurting other people and losing yourself.
  • Don't think that being yourself means that you cannot change who you are. You want to be a person that you can be proud of, so if there is some way you can improve yourself, go for it. Don't allow your shortcomings to discourage you, but don't ignore them either.
  • Make sure that you can show the same "you" to everyone consistently. If you feel the need to be secretive about something wrong you've done, you are not really being yourself; it will show and misunderstandings will occur. Do what's right. You cannot truly be yourself unless you can face yourself.
  • Keep in mind that 'being yourself' is not always the right thing to do. Would you tell a despicable person to just be himself and not change a thing? No. Most of the time when people in general perceive you a certain way, it means you don't fit in to your society. Whether you want to fit in or not is up to you, but you are only setting yourself up for trouble when you neglect society's ways. (That is, unless you decide to live in a cave for the rest of your life.)
  • Nobody is perfect. However, if you are outrageously flawed (for example, have a short temper), then you should look into some self-improvement rather than ignoring everyone's cues and "being yourself." Don't deny yourself of the truth by saying it's everyone else's problem and not yours. You'll only be hurting yourself in the long run.
  • While you're being you, remember that "you" might have your flaws that might need to be changed, but only for the better (materialistic things/personality do not count, such as your favorite bag that everybody ridicules, or if you talk quietly). Goals and bad habits count. Say, you have bad acne and you've been stressing on it for a while. Don't say "well, 'I' have bad acne, and I want to be myself, so I'll give up on getting rid of it." Or if you have some bad habits, don't say "it's a part of me, that's the way it is," because you can still change yourself for the better and in ways which will make you grow.

HOW TO BE DRESS LIKE A TOMBOY

f you're a girl who'd rather keep it simple than dress to impress, follow these steps and end up looking like just one of the guys.

Steps

  1. Wear shoes. Starting from the bottom, wear tennis shoes or sneakers -- DC, Converse, Etnies,and Vans are the best way to go.
  2. Wear jeans and shirts with little sarcastic sayings on it. And if you want to wear shorts, go with boy shorts! (The shorts that go to the knees but are made for girls.)And you could NEVER go wrong with hoodies!
  3. Some good accessories are hats that are a little but not too big and watches that have a wide cloth strap.


Tips

  • Tomboys aren't just about their clothes, its their personality too! Play video games, sports, stand up for yourself, etc.
  • Avoid little girly girl dresses!
  • Do not be afraid to shop in the boys department, there is a lot of cool stuff in there!

Things you might or will need

  • Boyish Clothes
  • Friends to hang out with


HOW TO BE YOURSELF

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. — Oscar Wilde

Being Yourself is celebrating you, as an individual - learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are. For some people, it's learning to love yourself, for others, it's not hiding who you are or changing things about you to fit in. So read on to know how to express the inner you.

STEPS
  1. Find yourself. You can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does. You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them and not let them define you. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past, so there is no use crying over spilled milk.
  2. Stop caring about how people perceive you. The fact is, it really doesn't matter. It's impossible to be yourself when you're caught up in wondering "Do they think I'm funny? Does she think I'm fat? Do they think I'm stupid?" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — not their consideration of you. Besides, if you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go around in a vicious cycle trying to please people; it's totally pointless in the end. However, if someone you trust and respect critiques aspects of who you are, feel free to judge (honestly) whether or not it is accurate instead of dismissing the critique automatically or accepting it indefinitely.
  3. Be honest and open. What have you got to hide? We're all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself — and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don't beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest.
  4. Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterwards. Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you're not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It's also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
  5. Develop and express your individuality. Whether it's your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, then be proud of it... unless it's destructive to yourself or others. Be a character, not a type.
  6. Have a productive day. Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and that some days, you're the statue. People might raise eyebrows and even make fun, but as long as you can shrug and say "Hey, that's just me" and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you'll respect yourself.
  7. Believe in who you are. If you're always working to be someone you're not, you'll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you're proud of the way you are! Nobody knows you better than you and that's how it should be. You deserve to be your own best friend, so start trying to figure out how you can do that. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you? Believe in this idea and use that as your starting point.


Tips

  • There's a difference between being yourself and being rude. You might have your opinions, dreams, and preferences, but so does everyone else. You shouldn't disrespect people who disagree with you; they have the privilege of being themselves just as you do. Conversely, don't agree with something you honestly don't think is right; just don't try to force your opinions on other people.
  • If fads or trends strike your fancy, don't avoid them! Being yourself is all about reflecting who you are inside in what you do, and what you like is what you like, no matter how trendy it is (or not trendy, for that matter)!
  • As the famous song goes, "Life's not worth a darn until you can say, I am what I am." When you can sincerely say it, you will know that you can be yourself.
  • Even if you are interested in something that doesn't interest most people, don't be afraid or hide it; stand up and show your true inner self. People will know how confident you are.
  • Don't worry about anything but being yourself and living life to the fullest!
  • In some cases, reducing Internet dependency might help you feel more "connected" to yourself. It may be easier to nurture your individuality without the perpetual distractions of the Internet. Try not going online for a while, and if this leads you to start feeling better about yourself, then you may want to consider replacing all the excess time you spend on the Internet with offline activities, such as hobbies or clubs.

WARNING (for "how to be a tomboy")

  • Don't get so caught up in being a tomboy that you forget to be yourself. You can wear make-up and pretty clothes and still be "one of the guys".
  • Don't try too hard. If you constantly say stuff like "Dude, I hate girly girls" and change very quickly, you'll look like a total poser and nobody will want to hang out with you. Change slowly, and just act how you feel. Besides, if you are comfortable being a tomboy, you won't have any problems with people who want to be girly-girls. Everyone should be who they are, and if you don't like someone who is girly, don't point them out and say you hate them because their girly.
  • Your parents may get upset, particularly your Mum. If she's really girly and likes hanging out with you, she may be upset you're changing. Don't worry, just explain you're changing but you're still the same person.
  • Just because you're a tomboy doesn't mean that you have to forget your personal hygiene but you don't have to spend hours in the Bathroom every morning. Shower at least once a day. Though the boys may smell bad after a game of football, try not to smell that bad. Wear deodorant and keep yourself clean.
  • Never wear anymore of those cute little dresses, it will ruin your tomboy rep.
  • If you've seen boy's jeans, they're a little ripped up, not hugely ripped.
  • This can be a hard lifestyle. You'll have to take girly girls make fun of you. Just ignore it or come up with a witty response.
  • Don't be flat out rude to girly girls, it makes you out to be a jerk.
  • If you are a girly girl changing to a tomboy, you can still keep your old friends.
  • If you are in high school people might assume you are lesbian. Politely correct them if they are wrong. Explain you just like being a tomboy or lead an athletic lifestyle and aren't into girly things.


18 Jan 2009

HOW TO BE A TOMBOY

Do you feel confined by the chains of femininity? Are you horrified at the thought of spending more than two seconds in front of a mirror? Not every girl wants to be glamourous, and sometimes she just wants to be one of the guys. Here's how to step outside the box and be a tomboy.

STEP
  1. Avoid wearing soft and powdery colors like they're the plague. Light pink is notoriously girly. Stick with bold, darker colors, such as navy, red, and black.
  2. Be physically active, especially with sports, and do it earnestly. Don't join a team just to mine the field for potential boyfriends. Throw yourself into the game, get in touch with your inner competitor, and don't be afraid to break a sweat. Try a really cool sport like martial arts. You get a good workout, meet great people and learn something that you can really use.
  3. If sports aren't your thing then try video games. Getting yourself an X-box 360 and Gears Of War is a good choice but you don't have to stick to First Person Shooters, Even a simple Mario or Sonic game will suffice.
  4. Choose clothes that allow you to become physically active at the drop of a hat. Jeans, t-shirts, and sneakers are always a good bet. High-heels, skirts, and dresses are no-no's,if you plan on doing anything physical that day .Before you leave the house, ask yourself: "If someone invited me to play football, would I have to turn them down because of the way I'm dressed?" If the answer is yes, change, but,if you aren't let your femininity free.
  5. Get used to hearing the people around you belch and make other unpleasant noises and smells with their bodies. Odds are, you'll spend a lot of time surrounded by testosterone, which doesn't always favor good hygiene and etiquette. However, have some self-respect. Don't do it yourself. Let's face it, guys simply can't help it. We can . . . and civilization depends upon us.
  6. Don't be boy crazy. If you want to be like one of the guys, you can't be THAT much into guys. No one's asking you to avoid attraction to the opposite sex...Just don't make it the centerpiece of your focus. There's much more to life than obsessing over guys.
  7. Learn how to talk. Don't gush or talk in a really high pitched voice. Find the right volume and pitch, and don't mumble. Make sure you sound confident. Swearing doesn't mean you're a tomboy, either, so don't do it. It sounds pretty cheap. Use words like "crap" if you get annoyed, don't go around sounding like some x rated movie. You don't have to use "dude" or "man", but if you think it helps you and you're comfortable with it, go ahead.
  8. Start hanging around boys and wearing non-girly clothing.
  9. You can still be friends with total shopping, lip gloss loving, hip swinging girly girls, just do not become one, or elseyour friends that are boys will totally turn you off.
  10. Make friends with other tomboys, they'll introduce you to their friends and you can do a lot of things that boys can do that girly girls never could, like for instance play football ond boy basketball.
  11. Learn to skateboard or go on the scooter! After school you and your friends can go to the skate park and have skating contests.
  12. Appreciate that you are one of the guys and they will accept you more easily than the girly girls that they tease.
  13. Observe boys and how they walk. that's really important. They don't use havds on their hips or swinging hips, they use their shoulders and take huge steps forward.
  14. Run a lot. You don't want to get left in the dust when you are racing with a friend. They might get a little surprise when a tomboy passes them.
  15. Chances are they will ask if you watch Naruto, Fear Factor, Mar or anything else like that. It is optional, but you might want to try it.
  16. Don't be afraid to get down and dirty, grass stains on your jeans, scuffed up shoes, that's a real tomboy right there.
  17. Wear some boyish clothes like un-jeweled jeans or camouflage pants. You could also just wear baggy pants. For a shirt you may want to buy some very baggy t-shirts with boyish designs. You might want to wear skateboard shoes or converse. Exceptions for pink is a VERY dark pink.
  18. Joke around a lot.

TIPS

  • Always wear your hair in a ponytail or cut it short so it doesn't stick to your head when you sweat, but if you want to not tie them, make sure you straighten it.Two low ponytails or a plait would be ok, but sort of pushing the limit. Take care of your hair, tough-boys take care of their hair too, so it's alright. Wash your hair as much as needed, brush/comb it everyday, and don't use too many hair products. Don't keep fiddling with your hair though. Bangs are cool, so don't feel like you have to clip them up. Long hair doesn't mean you're girly, either. If you want to get your hair cut, don't get it too short unless it really suits you. Make sure it's styled properly. A layered cut is great, because it makes hair easier to manage if it's thick, and it looks just awesome when you put it in a ponytail. Not girly, either. It looks quite skaterish.
  • Don't bother with make-up or nail polish unless you feel like it. You don't have to dress up to please someone else, but you don't have to look like road-kill to be tough, either.
  • Don't let girly girls be mean to you . . . or anyone else, for that matter. Learn to deal with it without screaming, crying or looking stupid.
  • Go out and enjoy nature. The key is not to be afraid of spiders, bugs, and the like. Or if there's a girly-girl screaming about the bug in front of her pick it up and move it outside. It really impresses guys to know that you aren't afraid of creepy things, but everything has a right to live.
  • When you have to shop, go to a skate shop or somewhere that sells stuff you like.
  • Never be afraid to let your creative side show.
  • You don't have to like sports. That's part of the stereotype, Video games can be a better alternative.
  • Don't be afraid to gush over boys with your girl friends.
  • Look good sometimes. Don't act extremely like a guy, since that is just being stereotypical.
  • The tomboys I know are girls who don't care about what others think of them. If you're someone who lives to please and get compliments, don't become a tomboy.
  • Being a tomboy is mostly natural.
  • If your parents are really sad ask them questions about their childhood then they'll understand.
  • Be yourself
  • Do not wear dresses, only shorts and a loose tee shirt
  • Don't wear loud make-up
  • Never ever EVER wear girly jewelry or friendship bracelets or anything like that. Boys will ask about that and you will have to make a quick excuse.
  • You girly girls who adore those dance jackets and those disgustingly wierd striped knee socks, they gotta go. Never wear them again! Donate them or something.
  • You may want to cut your hair if you have long hair and like to put girly objects in it. If you want to keep your hair, wear it in a ponytail.
  • Don't be on your cellphone 24/7
  • If you are looking for clothes, you don't have to go to some skate shop you find in the mall. If you go shopping at a place like Kohl's, just head straight for the boys department. Don't worry if you see a boy there that you know.


13 Jan 2009

'whatever' (tambahan)

we said 'whatever' because we don't wont do anything.. you not sure? i give you exam..
1. you don't want to do anything you'll say whatever if someone ask to you.
2. you have many job and said whatever if someone ask for breakfast, launch, and dinner.
that simpley exam.. i know many exam in this world.. but,, if i write all i can't write this word.. now,, why a poor man can say because they lazy..
don't believe?? try!!